Outdatedናሙና

Day Two

Trading in the Lies

Scripture: Matthew 24:35; John 8:31–32; Hebrews 13:8

It may seem ironic to say that something as old as the Bible holds the cure for what ails dating in the twenty-first century. But it’s actually modern dating ideas that should be considered outdated—because they’re obviously not working.

What’s crazy about that is it seems like today’s young adults should be really, really good at dating. We have dating apps and websites designed to sort through the millions of available singles and supposedly help us find the algorithmically perfect match. We have an endless string of movies and TV series showing us examples of how to date. And yet, by just about every measurable standard, we’re continually getting worse at dating. 

Basically, we’re believing in myths. We talk about things like “love at first sight,” and finding “the one,” and “happily ever after.” We try to conform to modern society’s standards and expectations for dating, even though modern society is terrible at forming relationships that last. By and large, we’re doing dating wrong, and the results speak for themselves. 

If you think you’re happy with the results you’re getting, there’s no need to change. But most people aren’t happy with the results they’re getting in dating, and statistically, it’s not working for us on a society-wide level. You can’t do the same things you’ve been doing, and the same things millions of other people have been doing, and expect to get different results. Don’t think that this time will be different, or that somehow it will work for you when it hasn’t worked for anyone else. If you want a different outcome, you need to provide a different input. You have to be willing to change. 

Unlike the world’s advice, the principles in God’s Word have proven to be reliable. The Bible never becomes outdated, because it is the truth, and the truth doesn’t change over time.

Trade the lies for truth. Start dating a different way.

What myths have you believed about dating, marriage, and falling in love?