Girls, Here’s What You Never Knew..ናሙና

Dealing with your past

I have a bad past, and I feel terribly condemned and miserable at times. I can’t seem to get over it. Is it too late?

Well, if you are asking this question, then know that everybody has a past! But also know that God is greater than your past, no matter how bad or unrepairable it looks. Yes, mistakes do come with their consequences, but they don’t have to define you. 

And, it can never be late to take a U-turn and come back to God. He is waiting to heal and restore you. The moment you surrender your life completely to God, He forgives you of your past mistakes and gives you a new beginning. 

Forget what happened long ago! Don’t think about the past. I am creating something new. There it is! Do you see it? (Isa 43:19, CEV).

The devil may use people and situations around you to remind you of your past, but this is where you have to renew your mind, meditate on the Word of God, and refuse to go into the pity party mode. (Also, don’t fall into the trap of getting into a new relationship without getting healed of your past hurts. Instead, during this period, get to know Jesus more.) 

Secondly, know that God had no role in what has happened to you. The Bible says that God is good and He does only good. Anything that is bad is not from God but a result of the choices we make. In fact, God is the one who is for you and is still working to turn it around for your good.  So take your brokenness to God and allow Him to heal you. Just as God forgave you, you forgive yourself and the people who caused you hurt. 

Importantly, marry someone because he is God’s will for your life, and not because of an obligation. We've seen many girls bonded in a soul tie to a boy because they kissed or touched in the wrong places or lost their virginity. If you have made a mistake in your past and have crossed lines, it doesn’t mean you have to get married to that boy.

Immediately break off, lest you become an object of manipulation or abuse. It is not God’s will to keep you in bondage to someone who misuses your body, which is a temple of His Holy Spirit. God forgives you and wants to give you a new beginning. He can even restore your virginity, for nothing is impossible with our God.