Bring Back Those Loving Feelingsናሙና

One of the ways to rekindle romance and re-ignite the flame in your marriage is to remember. Remember how things were when you first got together. What caught your partner's eye? What stole their heart? 

It may have been your vitality, laugh or free-spirit that caused your spouse to be attracted to you when dating. If you don’t know what it was, then simply ask. For some people, attraction is related to the mind - conversation or vivacity. For others, it’s a spirit, or the way you walk, or your frequency of touch. Take time to talk about this as a couple and focus on the things that bring about a greater attraction to each other. But be sure to do so with a heart of encouragement, not criticism. 

Attraction will often increase in marriage as you and your spouse deepen your level of intimacy and enhance your shared experiences. It can also change over time as to what evokes it. Be sure to revisit this topic every so often as a couple so that each of you can identify what makes you more attractive to your spouse and focus on how to embody that for them. 

Remember, you are a gift to your spouse – a gift to delight, honor and enjoy. As they are also to you. Have fun with it. Flirt. Send loving texts. Wear that shirt he or she loves. Maintain that gaze longer than necessary. Wink. Share one side of a booth when eating out. Keep your attraction to each other alive for the full 365.