Relearning Sex-Ed

Devotional Content:

One of my favorite things to share with couples as they enter into marriage is their uniqueness. Think about it. You are one of a kind and your spouse is one of a kind. Together you have a one-of-a-kind marriage. Take that into the sexual relationship and what the two of you have is unique in all the world. No two people will ever come together like the two of you.

That uniqueness makes it so important for each of us to relearn “sex-ed.” Even if you had the very best education about sex in marriage, you were not educated about your spouse. What is exciting for one person may be different for another. What causes deep, close intimacy will be a little or a lot different from one couple to the next. That’s why I have couples begin sharing their sexual expectations before marriage. Yet, in marriage I think it goes deeper than expectations. It is getting to know each other at a deep, intimate level. The Bible in Genesis talks about Adam and Eve, the first man and wife, being “naked and unashamed.” I think that means that they shared with each other what they wanted, felt, liked, didn’t like, and much more. There was no filter because they did not need one. They totally trusted each other and experienced amazing intimacy physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually.

The best part is that intimacy is there for us just like it was for them. That was and is God’s plan. Let’s look at it this way. The first “sex-ed” course I took was from the world I lived in. It taught me what my culture believed about sex. It was a course I wish I had never enrolled in, but I did. Lots of us did. Today we can enroll in another “sex-ed” course. It is very, very different from the other one and it really, really works because the Professor is amazing. You see, He’s the One who invented sex in the first place!

Today’s Challenge:

Where did you first begin to learn about sex and sexuality? Share how that affected your views about sex.

Going Deeper:

1. Who influenced your “sex education?” Was that positive or negative? Why?

2. How much time have you devoted as a couple to developing your sexual relationship? Has it been a priority?

3. How would you rate your communication about sex in your marriage? (Use a 1–10 scale with 10 being the highest.)

4. Are you willing as a couple to spend time working together to improve your sexual relationship? Will you begin today?

Resource:

Looking for more godly insight to improve sex in your marriage? Dr. Kim Kimberling is teaching a Christian Sex Webinar on 9 ways to improve your sex life. Learn 7 reasons your sex life might not be where you want it to be and how to grow past them to enjoy God's gift of sex in your marriage.

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