5 Marriage Lies to Defeat With Biblical TruthSample

#3: Boundaries mean my spouse is trying to control me.

A boundary is a term our society hates to hear in relation to marriage. Often, it puts people on the defense automatically, not wanting to give up any control they may feel they have.

But this is a misunderstanding of what boundaries are and why they need to exist. They are not about control. They are for protection, and to help us and our relationships get and stay healthy. Since the beginning of time, boundaries have been for our benefit. Why? Because God knew He had something better for Adam and Eve than to go running after fig leaves to cover their nakedness. (Genesis 3:7)

In marriage, God has something better for us than letting satan and the attempts of the world divide and conquer our marriages. (John 10:10) Boundaries are beneficial and when they are discussed and agreed upon, they are not used to control your spouse but rather protect your most important earthly relationship. They are a way to look to the good of your spouse and your marriage, in line with Philippians 2:3-4, rather than just to your own interests.

Challenge:

Where could you better protect your marriage? Are there outside influences that have too much space in your heart or mind? Rearrange priorities today and start protecting your marriage!

Prayer:

Father, it is my desire to protect the precious relationship you’ve given us. Convict me of the areas that we need to more intentionally protect. Help me to honor our marriage in what we say, what we see, where we go, and who we spend time with.