Setting Boundaries for Toxic PeopleSample

Do not stay in a relationship that is hurtful to you.

If you are being hurt, physically or emotionally, and you are staying in that relationship wondering why you are still being hurt, learn from Jesus. Jesus did not go back to Pilate, Herod, or the Pharisees after His resurrection. He only went to the people that accepted Him. He went to those who were repentant and grieved the pain they caused Him.

Saul and David are other good examples. When Saul threw a spear at David, David didn’t retaliate. David ran from Saul’s presence. Saul had “a change of heart”, supposedly, and asked David to come back to reconcile. But David knew he could not go back to the palace because Saul had not changed, Saul had not repented. Saul was experiencing regret, but not repentance.

When there is no repentance, there cannot be a reconciliation.

David honored Saul, he loved him and even wept at Saul’s funeral. However, he did not get close to Saul again.

If you have someone in your life who throws a spear at you once, twice, or even three times and they are not repentant, walk away because there is no trust there.

Let's Pray:

God, I can relate to David because there are people in my life who have caused me pain again and again. I have given them multiple chances, but they do not change. Holy Spirit, give me the wisdom and strength to cut ties with them.