The Joy Of Missing Out By Tonya DaltonSample

I want to challenge you to make some tough choices. Choose to rethink what it means to be busy, choose how you spend your time, and choose how you treat your priorities. After all, if they are priorities, shouldn’t they be treated as priorities? They should sit front and center when you plan out your day each morning. We can allow others to take control of our calendars and our time with their own priorities and urgent tasks, or we can be in charge.



We have to keep in mind it’s all about harmony—not balance. We use counterbalance so we can lean into our priorities for a time in order to move in the direction we want. I have created what I call Quarterly Crusades. Each quarter, I choose a top priority and focus in on it. You might be working toward a promotion at work, hitting a personal fitness goal, or actively creating time for a passion project. It doesn’t matter what it is; what matters is that it’s important to you. 

Every three months, we need to sit down and decide what goals need to be set in order to move us forward in that area where we want to grow. We have to resolve that, for the next ninety days, we are focusing on this area of our life. And then we need to plan. . . . We make sure this focused area is the first thing we schedule into our day. 

We have to let go of other projects that are potential distractions to our success. In our desire to do everything, we scatter our attention in a thousand directions. We want to focus.

Now, don’t get me wrong. Don’t be misguided and think this is permission to neglect all the other areas of your life. That’s not possible, and it’s not healthy. Life will continue to run, but when we have the clarity to know the direction we are moving in, we can prioritize where we spend our time. . . .

We find harmony when we counterbalance: we even out heavy workdays with lighter workdays, we fill our weekends with personal time instead of work, and we shift our mindset and remember life is not meant to be endured but enjoyed.

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