Kuthathwe encwadini yabo ethi "Getting Ready for Marriage," joyina ochwepheshe bezobudlelwano uJim Burns noDoug Fields njengoba bekusiza ukuthi uqale manje ukuhlelela ubudlelwane ubuhlala njalo. Ezezimali, abasekhweni, ukuxhumana, ukuxolelana, okulindelekile ocansini, asikho isihloko esinqunyelwe njengoba wena nomngani wakho womshado nilungiselela ukusuka ekuthembiseni ningene esivumelwaneni sempilo yonke komunye nomunye.

Ukulungiselela Umshado

Noma nini lapho othile ebuza ukuthi siyakholelwa yini ocansini ngaphambi komshado siphendula ngokuthi "yebo no cha." Impendulo edidayo ekuqaleni, kepha isinikeza ithuba lokwenza iphuzu elibalulekile. Unkulunkulu uqinisekisa ubulili bethu njengabantu futhi asikwazi ngokuzumayo ukuba yi-asexual. Ngalesi sizathu, sikholelwa kwezocansi ngaphambi komshado. Siyashesha ukulandela, noma kunjalo, ngokuthi ukwenza ucansi lobulili ngaphambi komshado ngokusobala akuhambisani nezimiso zikaNkulunkulu. 

Ungasindisa Kanjani Ucansi Ukuze Ushade?

Wake waba sendaweni lapho udidekile ngokuthi iyini intando kaNkulunkulu esimweni esithile?

Lolu hlelo lwezinsuku ezingu-3 luhlola ukuthi singathola kanjani intando Yakhe - kokubili, intando Yakhe ejwayelekile, kanye nentando Yakhe eqondile ezimpilweni zethu.

Ukuqonda Intando KaNkulunkulu

Kuthiwani uma singakalwa ngezinto esizifezile, kodwa sinikwa amandla ubudlelwane bethu? Ngezindaba eziqabulayo, umbhali uRoger Thompson wembula uhlobo lobudlelwane bamandla obusetshenziswa ekulolongeni indoda. Qala lolu hlelo lweBhayibheli lwe-Life.Church nabanye abangani namuhla.

Iseluleko Sobudlelwane Kwabesilisa

Izinkinga zomshado zingehlisa noma ngubani phansi kepha uNkulunkulu unokuhlakanipha eZwini lakhe okungaguqula umshado onzima ube mnandi. Umlingani othengisa kakhulu we-NYT uBruce Wilkinson noHeather Hair abalingani kulolu hlelo lokufunda lokuzinikela lwezinsuku ezintathu ukusiza ukukuqondisa kule ndlela.

Lapho Umshado Uba nzima

Wonke umuntu ufuna ukwazi ukuthi uthando luyini. Kodwa bayingcosana abantu abaya ebhayibhelini ukuthola ukuthi lithini ngothando. Uthando lweyizinye zezingqalazinto zezibhalo nezinto ezibalulekile zempilo yomzalwane. Loluhlelo lease Thistlebend Ministries lufundisa ngencazo yebhayibheli mayelana nothando nokumthanda kahulu uNkulunkulu nabanye.

Luyini uthando lweqiniso?

Ithathwe encwadini yakhe entsha ethi "A Lifelong Love," uGary Thomas ukhuluma ngezinjongo zaphakade zomshado. Funda amathuluzi asebenzayo ukusiza ukwakha umshado wakho ube ubudlelwano obukhuthazayo, ukusabalalisa impilo engokomoya kwabanye.

Phefumulela Intshiseko Yomoya Emshadweni Wakho

Kulolu hlelo lweLife.Church Bible Plan, imibhangqwana eyisithupha ibhala ngezifungo zomshado eziyisithupha abangakaze bazisho ngokusemthethweni e-altare. Lezi zifungo zokuzilungiselela, ukubeka phambili, ukulandela, ukubambisana, ubumsulwa, nokuthandaza yizifungo ezenza imishado isebenze kade kudlula umshado. Noma ngabe ushadile noma ucabanga nje ngakho, sekuyisikhathi sokwenza isithembiso.  

Isifungo

Ngokugxila emshadweni wethu ngokomongo womBhalo, sinikeza uNkulunkulu ithuba lokuveza ukuqonda okusha ngobudlelwano bethu nokuqinisa isibopho sethu. Lolu hlelo lubonisa indinyana egxile emBhalweni kanye nemicabango esheshayo usuku ngalunye ukuqala ingxoxo nokuthandaza nomlingani wakho. Lolu hlelo lwezinsuku ezinhlanu ukuzibophezela kwesikhashana ukukusiza ukuthi utshale imali ebudlelwaneni bakho bempilo yonke. Ukuze uthole okwengeziwe okuqukethwe, bheka finds.life.church 

Uthando no Mshado

Imishado eqinile ayivele izithuthukise. Ithemba lethu ukuthi uzothola izimo zengqondo, izindinganiso nemikhuba edingekayo ukwakha umshado onempilo noqinile oyohlala impilo yonke. Lolu hlelo lwezinsuku ezinhlanu luthathwe kwi-The Pre-Marriage Course eyenziwe nguNicky noSila Lee, ababhali beThe Marriage Book.

Inkambo Yangaphambi Komshado

Sesha i-#RelationshipGoals ezinkundleni zokuxhumana, futhi uzothola izithombe ezibonakala ziphelele zabashadile abathandanayo. Kodwa kuthiwani uma umbono wobudlelwano umphakathi wethu owuthengisayo ungamanga? Umfundisi uMichael Todd ubhale Izinjongo Zobudlelwane: Indlela Yokunqoba Ekujoleni, Umshado, kanye Nocansi mayelana nokuba nemigomo yobudlelwano evela kuNkulunkulu futhi ihambisane nalokho Asenze ukuba sibe yikho. 

Imigomo Yobudlelwano

Njengabalandeli bakaJesu sikholelwa ukuthi uNkulunkulu uluthando, kodwa ezikhathini eziningi ikhono lethu lokuthanda abanye liyinselelo enkulu. Mhlawumbe lokho kungenxa yokuthi uthando aluwona nje umuzwa noma umzwelo onamandla. Uthando luwuMuntu. Thatha uhambo ngo-1 KwabaseKorinte 13 futhi uthole uMuntu wothando nokuthi, Ngaye, singabathanda kanjani abanye kangcono.

Uthando LunguMuntu

Kulolu cwaningo, sizokuqondisa ohambweni lobudlelwano oluhlanganisa izindlela ezingu-12 ezibalulekile zokuba Nothando Oluhlala Njalo.    

Izinsuku Ezingu-12 Zothando Oluhlala Njalo

Awukho umshado ophelele ngoba umshado uwukuhlangana kwabantu ababili abangaphelele. Kodwa ngosizo lukaNkulunkulu, ungaba nomshado omuhle-hhayi ngokumcela ukuba alungise owakwakho, kodwa ngokumcela ukuba enze umsebenzi enhliziyweni yakho. Lolu hlelo lwezinsuku ezi-5 luzokusiza ukuthi uthole ukuphulukiswa, ukuthula, kanye nokuzethemba kuKristu ukuze uthande owakwakho kahle futhi uguqule umshado wakho.