Upgrade Your Sex Lifeنموونە

A lot of us start off sexually with challenges. I was sexually abused, exposed to porn, and a sex addict. I have had to overcome obstacles to have a great sex life, and because of what I experienced, I have helped thousands overcome obstacles to have their own great sex life.

The scripture in 1 John 5:4 says, “For everyone born of God overcomes the world, this is the victory that has overcome the world, even our faith.”

Let me list three of the largest obstacles some have to overcome to have a great sex life. The first is sexual abuse. This sexual secret, if not exposed and healed, can keep someone from having an incredible sex life. 

First, you must tell someone and often get some Christian counseling to move through this obstacle. This event or events does not limit your sexuality, your sexuality is indestructible. Not taking responsibility to heal from sexual abuse can limit your sexual experiences.

Second, sexual addiction, be it pornography or other sexual behavior, can also be an obstacle. It is perfectly legitimate for couples to ask each other if they are viewing pornography or participating in self-gratifying behaviors. Sexual addiction, if it stays a secret cannot heal. If we confess our faults one to another, we can be healed (James 5:16). I have seen thousands of men and some women heal from sexual addictions. You will need accountability and some intervention, but you can absolutely be free. 

Intimacy Anorexia is the active withholding of spiritual, emotional, and sexual intimacy from your spouse. This person is too busy for you, blames you, withholds love, praise, sex, spiritual connection, as well as their feelings from you. The Intimacy Anorexic is often in control of you and can use anger or silence to control you. If you are married to an Intimacy Anorexic, you often feel like roommates or like you are married and alone. Here you will probably need more help including support groups and Christian counseling to proclaim victory over Intimacy Anorexia. 

All of these obstacles can and have been overcome by tens of thousands of Christians. If you need to overcome an obstacle to have and be fully engaged sexually in your marriage, that is great. God loves to heal any area of our life so we can prosper and grow in that area.