It’s not “obey my commands and you gain more of my love” - We can’t earn more love.
It’s - abide in my love...experience me...and out of that love you will keep my commandments.
IT’S A CYCLE - The more I love the more I obey...the more I obey, the more I love.
FILL YOUR LIFE WITH WHAT STIRS UP YOUR AFFECTION FOR JESUS. CUT AWAY WHAT ROBS YOU OF THOSE AFFECTIONS.
What stirs your affection? - Spending time with him: In His word, in worship, in prayer. Spending time with the people of God. Those things stir your affections.
What are things that rob you of your affection? - Could be entertainment, it could be the news, it could be friends that want nothing to do with God.