Encouraging news about marriage...
-Around 80% of marriages are happy marriages: 34% are HIGHLY happy. 37% are happy. 29% are so-so and struggling.
-Most people are glad they married their spouse (95%)—and would do it all over again.
-Most of those who aren’t happy will be if they stay committed to each other for five years."
-Shaunti Feldhahn, “The Good News About Marriage”
Most marriage matters are because men and women are DIFFERENT.
Your spouse's perception is your reality.
MUTUAL SUBMISSION...
SUBMISSION = I decide, even when they don't deserve it, to put their needs before my own.
HONOR = Put them in esteem
UNDERSTANDING = discover, to learn
HER TOP NEEDS:
5. Family Commitment
-She sees a great husband as a good DAD.
4. Financial Stability
-She needs STABILITY, which is different than wealth.
3. Honesty & Openness
-SECRECY is the enemy of intimacy.
2. Conversation
-"The tongue is the sword of a woman, and she never lets it become rusty." Chinese Proverb
-She needs regular two-way communication, in the right TONE.
-You're never persuasive when you're abrasive.
1. Affection
-Women need AFFECTION, like men need SEX.
TAKEAWAY:
Men, ask: "Which one of these five, needs some of my attention?"
Women, be gracious and humbly cheer him on!