BCF Church
Boundaries: Setting Limits For A Healthy Life Part 4
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2414 Central Blvd, Brownsville, TX 78520, USA
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The world has its own measuring stick for success, salary, status, possessions, and power. But what does God say about what makes a man? In a culture that tells us to aim low, stay comfortable, and avoid responsibility, we need to recalibrate our definition of true manhood and success from God's perspective.
Join us for our next GRIT Gathering as we dive into what it really means to be a man of God. We'll challenge cultural definitions of success and discover how to align our priorities, goals, and daily lives with Kingdom values. This isn't about adding more to your plate, it's about making sure you're measuring what actually matters.
š Date: October 25, 2025
š Time: 11:00 AM ā 1:00 PM
š Location: BCF Worship Center, 2414 Central Blvd.
Bring your appetite and your questions. We'll share a meal, dig into God's Word, and walk away with practical steps to live as men who are measured not by the world's standards, but by God's calling on our lives. Don't just show up to life, show up with purpose. Let's grow in faith together and discover what it truly means to be men of GRIT.
Join us for our next GRIT Gathering as we dive into what it really means to be a man of God. We'll challenge cultural definitions of success and discover how to align our priorities, goals, and daily lives with Kingdom values. This isn't about adding more to your plate, it's about making sure you're measuring what actually matters.
š Date: October 25, 2025
š Time: 11:00 AM ā 1:00 PM
š Location: BCF Worship Center, 2414 Central Blvd.
Bring your appetite and your questions. We'll share a meal, dig into God's Word, and walk away with practical steps to live as men who are measured not by the world's standards, but by God's calling on our lives. Don't just show up to life, show up with purpose. Let's grow in faith together and discover what it truly means to be men of GRIT.
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Part 4
October 19, 2025
Part 4
October 19, 2025
Friendships ARE God-designed and God-encouraged!
Proverbs 18:24, New Living Translation
A real friend sticks closer than a brother.
A real friend sticks closer than a brother.
Proverbs 27:17, NLT
As iron sharpens iron, so a friend sharpens a friend.
As iron sharpens iron, so a friend sharpens a friend.
Proverbs 27:9, The Message
A sweet friendship refreshes the soul.
A sweet friendship refreshes the soul.
The Bible shows us that healthy friendships bring us:
Ā· Safety & Protection
Ā· Advice & Counsel
Ā· Laughter & Joy
Ā· Adventure!
Ā· Safety & Protection
Ā· Advice & Counsel
Ā· Laughter & Joy
Ā· Adventure!
Friendships ARE God-designed and God-encouraged!
We struggle believing that friendships need boundaries.
Ā· Some friendships are actually acquaintances.
Ā· Some friendships should never be started
Ā· Some friendships have to be let go
Ā· Some friendships should never be started
Ā· Some friendships have to be let go
Mark 10:21, NLT
Looking at the man, Jesus felt genuine love for him.
Looking at the man, Jesus felt genuine love for him.
Mark 10:22, NLT
ā¦the manās face fell, and he went away sad.
ā¦the manās face fell, and he went away sad.
Boundaries in friendships are healthy.
John 15:14ā17 (NLT)
You are my friends if you do what I commandā¦. you are my friends, since I have told you everything the Father told me. You didnāt choose me. I chose you. I appointed you to go and produce lasting fruitā¦ This is my command: Love each other.
You are my friends if you do what I commandā¦. you are my friends, since I have told you everything the Father told me. You didnāt choose me. I chose you. I appointed you to go and produce lasting fruitā¦ This is my command: Love each other.
Our first boundary to DEEP friendships is a common calling to follow Jesus!
1) As a child youā¦
Ā· had to avoid saying no to keep everyone happy
Ā· were taught to avoid conflict
Ā· were afraid of hurting peopleās feelings
Ā· felt like you would be abandoned if you didnāt keep working on that relationship
2) As a child youā¦
Ā· never had to delay gratification.
Ā· took what you wanted.
Ā· never had to take responsibility for your actions
Ā· got away with anything and everything
3) As a child youā¦
Ā· were always rescued
Ā· parents did your homework
Ā· parents or grandparents always gave you money.
4) As a child youā¦
Ā· never had to work hard for friendships
Ā· friendships came naturally.
Ā· You were popular.
Ā· If you lost friends, new ones quickly replaced them
Ā· had to avoid saying no to keep everyone happy
Ā· were taught to avoid conflict
Ā· were afraid of hurting peopleās feelings
Ā· felt like you would be abandoned if you didnāt keep working on that relationship
2) As a child youā¦
Ā· never had to delay gratification.
Ā· took what you wanted.
Ā· never had to take responsibility for your actions
Ā· got away with anything and everything
3) As a child youā¦
Ā· were always rescued
Ā· parents did your homework
Ā· parents or grandparents always gave you money.
4) As a child youā¦
Ā· never had to work hard for friendships
Ā· friendships came naturally.
Ā· You were popular.
Ā· If you lost friends, new ones quickly replaced them
1) We will tend toā¦
Ā· steer clear of conflict
Ā· struggle to set limits
Ā· allow others to take advantage of us
Ā· hand every area of our life to others on a silver platter
Ā· disdain for conflict will build up resentment and bitterness
Ā· steer clear of conflict
Ā· struggle to set limits
Ā· allow others to take advantage of us
Ā· hand every area of our life to others on a silver platter
Ā· disdain for conflict will build up resentment and bitterness
2) We will tend toā¦
Ā· be unable to respect otherās limits
Ā· use and misuse otherās talents, time, and treasures
Ā· take without asking
Ā· be unable to respect otherās limits
Ā· use and misuse otherās talents, time, and treasures
Ā· take without asking
3) We will tend to:
Ā· take advantage of otherās kindness
Ā· take people for granted
Ā· refuse to plan ahead or take responsibility for our schedule
Ā· take advantage of otherās kindness
Ā· take people for granted
Ā· refuse to plan ahead or take responsibility for our schedule
4) We will tend toā¦
Ā· struggle to put real effort into our friendships
Ā· not take responsibility in a friendship
Ā· struggle showing empathy
Ā· expect others to simply be happy just to be called our friend
Ā· struggle to put real effort into our friendships
Ā· not take responsibility in a friendship
Ā· struggle showing empathy
Ā· expect others to simply be happy just to be called our friend
CARE
Communicate your feelings honestly
Ā· I will talk about my feelings to my friend notabout my friend to someone else.
Communicate your feelings honestly
Ā· I will talk about my feelings to my friend notabout my friend to someone else.
Proverbs 16:28, NLT (emphasis added)
Gossip SEPERATES the best of friends.
Gossip SEPERATES the best of friends.
Acknowledge you are not a victim
Ā· I will understand that I alone have the power to keep a friendship from wounding me
Ā· I will understand that I alone have the power to keep a friendship from wounding me
2 Timothy 1:7, NLT
For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love, and self-discipline.
For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love, and self-discipline.
Recognize and own your part
Ā· I will own the hurt I have caused, and I will ask forgiveness
Ā· I will own the hurt I have caused, and I will ask forgiveness
Proverbs 28:13, NLT
People who conceal their sins will not prosper, but if they confess and turn from them, they will receive mercy.
People who conceal their sins will not prosper, but if they confess and turn from them, they will receive mercy.
Extend compassion
Ā· I will offer forgiveness when an apology is given and give forgiveness silently when there is no apology offered. I will do this for the health of my own heart
Ā· I will offer forgiveness when an apology is given and give forgiveness silently when there is no apology offered. I will do this for the health of my own heart
Colossians 3:13, NLT
Forgive anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others.
Forgive anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others.
Proverbs 27:6, NLT
A sincere friend are better than many kisses from an enemy.
A sincere friend are better than many kisses from an enemy.
Matthew 5:44, NLT
I say, love your enemies! Pray for those who persecute you!
I say, love your enemies! Pray for those who persecute you!
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