CrossCreek Students
How to Handle Conflict
Midweek | 6:30-8:00
Locations & Times
CrossCreek Church
5405 Pleasant Run Rd, Colleyville, TX 76034, USA
Wednesday 6:00 PM
From a very early age, we’re told to be a friend, to be kind to others, and to get along with everyone, even if that person is different from us in some way. There’s a significant reason why they get repeated so much when we're kids.
As we get older, relationships become more complicated. When we were four or five years old, it was just easier to make friends and get along with everyone, but as we become teenagers and on into adulthood, relationships just become more complicated and have a higher risk of conflict to manage.
As we get older, relationships become more complicated. When we were four or five years old, it was just easier to make friends and get along with everyone, but as we become teenagers and on into adulthood, relationships just become more complicated and have a higher risk of conflict to manage.
AS MUCH AS IT DEPENDS ON YOU....
Paul was saying this to a group of people who were being brutalized and murdered for their faith!
When peace seems impossible:
1 :: Peace is the goal.
1 :: Peace is the goal.
When peace seems impossible:
1 :: Peace is the goal.
2 :: Peace starts with one person.
1 :: Peace is the goal.
2 :: Peace starts with one person.
To pursue peace, determine the level of your conflict.
LEVEL 1 – We just don’t like each other. Sometimes there are just people we don’t get along with. Usually not the end of the world - but if we aren't careful, can escalate into something more.
LEVEL 2 – A minor offense has been committed. Someone offended you. Probably something simple - you felt left out. Or maybe they constantly cut you off when you’re talking. Sometimes in this stage of conflict, the other person isn't even aware they’ve upset you!
LEVEL 3 – A major offense has been committed. This goes beyond ‘not getting along’. Two-faced, rumor spreading, intentional sleights. This person knows they’re firing shots across the bough. And so do you. And it can become an all-consuming conflict that spirals out of control in T-minus 2 seconds.
LEVEL 4 – And then finally, I’m in danger here. This is the level where the conflict has escalated to the point that you genuinely fear for your own safety or the safety of others. Plain and simple, if you find yourself in this type of conflict, it is absolutely crucial that you talk with a trusted adult.
LEVEL 1 – We just don’t like each other. Sometimes there are just people we don’t get along with. Usually not the end of the world - but if we aren't careful, can escalate into something more.
LEVEL 2 – A minor offense has been committed. Someone offended you. Probably something simple - you felt left out. Or maybe they constantly cut you off when you’re talking. Sometimes in this stage of conflict, the other person isn't even aware they’ve upset you!
LEVEL 3 – A major offense has been committed. This goes beyond ‘not getting along’. Two-faced, rumor spreading, intentional sleights. This person knows they’re firing shots across the bough. And so do you. And it can become an all-consuming conflict that spirals out of control in T-minus 2 seconds.
LEVEL 4 – And then finally, I’m in danger here. This is the level where the conflict has escalated to the point that you genuinely fear for your own safety or the safety of others. Plain and simple, if you find yourself in this type of conflict, it is absolutely crucial that you talk with a trusted adult.
Once you've determined the level of conflict, own your part.
-Did I do anything to contribute to this conflict?
-Have I done anything in retaliation that has made this conflict worse?
-What have I said, done, or thought that might have caused pain for the other person?
-Did I do anything to contribute to this conflict?
-Have I done anything in retaliation that has made this conflict worse?
-What have I said, done, or thought that might have caused pain for the other person?
Be objective when evaluating the conflict and your role in it. It's always easy to see our side of the story. Find some accountability that will help you be unbiased:
Think of someone who has your best interest at heart, someone you trust and someone who you know will tell you the truth, even if it’s difficult to hear.
Think of someone who has your best interest at heart, someone you trust and someone who you know will tell you the truth, even if it’s difficult to hear.
