Crossroads Community Church
RESET AND THE REARVIEW MIRROR | Crossroads | October 6, 2024
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119 N Broad St, Adrian, MI 49221, USA
Sunday 9:30 AM
Sunday 11:15 AM
Week 5
RESET AND THE REARVIEW MIRROR
Crossroads
October 6, 2024
RESET AND THE REARVIEW MIRROR
Crossroads
October 6, 2024
“Search me, O God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts; (ways of pain) and see if there is any offensive way in me, and lead me in the everlasting way.” (Psalm 139:23-24) (NASB)
TO MOVE _________________________, YOU OFTEN HAVE TO LOOK ________________________________________.
“Present your bodies as a living sacrifice. 2 Do not be CONFORMED to the world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.” (Romans 12:1-2) (NASB)
3 SKILLS NEEDED FOR HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS
1. DID YOU LEARN A WIDE RANGE OF ________________________ SO THAT YOU CAN DESCRIBE WHAT ______________________________ AND WHAT ______________________ TO YOURSELF, GOD, AND OTHERS?
THIS REQUIRES:
SELF–AWARENESS: Curiosity and vulnerability.
____ Did you learn to describe your inner self?
____ Were you taught to communicate this awareness to others in a
non-reactive way?
____ Did you learn about the times your current feelings were fueled by historical wounds?
SELF–AWARENESS: Curiosity and vulnerability.
____ Did you learn to describe your inner self?
____ Were you taught to communicate this awareness to others in a
non-reactive way?
____ Did you learn about the times your current feelings were fueled by historical wounds?
OTHER AWARENESS: Curiosity and non-defensiveness.
____ Did you learn to put yourself in another person’s shoes? Were you taught to reflect on their perspective?
____ Did you learn to put yourself in another person’s shoes? Were you taught to reflect on their perspective?
“My soul is deeply grieved, to the point of death.” (Matthew 26:38) (NASB)
GROWTH GOALS: LEARN TO USE THE SOUL WORDS.
Anxious, uneasy, preoccupied, scared, hyper-vigilant, weighted down, shocked, traumatized, grieved, angry, irritated, abandoned, disconnected, unwanted, sad, depressed, betrayed, duped, misunderstood, ashamed, embarrassed, invisible, forgotten, unimportant, despised, shame, confused, exhausted, let down.
Anxious, uneasy, preoccupied, scared, hyper-vigilant, weighted down, shocked, traumatized, grieved, angry, irritated, abandoned, disconnected, unwanted, sad, depressed, betrayed, duped, misunderstood, ashamed, embarrassed, invisible, forgotten, unimportant, despised, shame, confused, exhausted, let down.
2. DID YOU LEARN TO MANAGE _______________ EFFECTIVELY?
a. How did your DAD manage stress?
b. How did your MOM manage stress?
c. Write down a specific stressful situation or event you recently faced.
d. Using the soul words listed above, write down three feeling words you experienced because of this stress.
1. ___________________ 2. ___________________ 3. __________________
1. ___________________ 2. ___________________ 3. __________________
e. What were your behaviors due to this stress? How did you manage the stress?
f. Managing stress well is learning to deal effectively with difficult emotions.
g. How did Jesus handle stress and difficult, uncomfortable emotions?
(Matthew 26:36–46)
(Matthew 26:36–46)
Jesus sought relational relief versus non-relational relief.
GROWTH GOALS:
Know your STRESS response. Confess to someone. Ask for help and comfort.
Recognize stress responses in your spouse, friends, and family. Invite them to share their feelings and how you may comfort them.
Know your STRESS response. Confess to someone. Ask for help and comfort.
Recognize stress responses in your spouse, friends, and family. Invite them to share their feelings and how you may comfort them.
3. DID YOU LEARN TO ACKNOWLEDGE _______________________ AND HOW TO ____________________________________?
a. Do you notice when a relationship has suffered hurt?
b. Can you apologize if needed & take responsibility for your part of a conflict?
c. Can you INITIATE a conversation to restore peace and understanding?
b. Can you apologize if needed & take responsibility for your part of a conflict?
c. Can you INITIATE a conversation to restore peace and understanding?
GROWTH GOALS:
Ask family members, “What is one thing you would like to change about me?” Or “Is there anything between us that needs repair?” Listen, don’t debate, apologize.
Ask family members, “What is one thing you would like to change about me?” Or “Is there anything between us that needs repair?” Listen, don’t debate, apologize.