St Marks Congregational Church
Negativity: Part 2 Lies we tell ourselves
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Locations & Times
St Marks Church PE
447 Cape Rd, Westering, Port Elizabeth, 6025, South Africa
Sunday 6:00 AM
Helpless – living like a victim, blaming, defending and excusing.
Hopeless – creating absolute negative assumptions: “… always be like this, never going to change, everything is bad…”
Your thoughts are powerful. You have power over your thoughts!
Hopeless – creating absolute negative assumptions: “… always be like this, never going to change, everything is bad…”
Your thoughts are powerful. You have power over your thoughts!
The REAL Source
Most likely the real source of negativity.
Negative about ourselves.
“I don’t like you or this or anything else… because I don’t like me.”
Most likely the real source of negativity.
Negative about ourselves.
“I don’t like you or this or anything else… because I don’t like me.”
Inside and Outside Voices
The overwhelming majority of our talking happens in silence.
The quiet, inside lies we tell ourselves about ourselves are the scariest.
We have them subliminally on repeat. All day. Every day.
Repetition is incredibly Powerful.
The overwhelming majority of our talking happens in silence.
The quiet, inside lies we tell ourselves about ourselves are the scariest.
We have them subliminally on repeat. All day. Every day.
Repetition is incredibly Powerful.
CORE Thoughts
Deeper layer-things that just ARE.
Constantly telling yourself:
Deeper layer-things that just ARE.
Constantly telling yourself:
Lies on Life-support
You are keeping the lies alive. Without you they would die!
Why? Because you’re the only one thinking them all the time
You are keeping the lies alive. Without you they would die!
Why? Because you’re the only one thinking them all the time
Feeling Helpless
Lies on life-support will eventually make you feel like the VICTIM.
“They don’t understand!”
“They don’t have to deal with what I have to!”
“They can… I can’t… because….”
You’re trying to convince yourself they’re true by convincing others.
Lies on life-support will eventually make you feel like the VICTIM.
“They don’t understand!”
“They don’t have to deal with what I have to!”
“They can… I can’t… because….”
You’re trying to convince yourself they’re true by convincing others.
Feeling Hopeless
Helplessness will lead to hopelessness.
Eventually you start feeling overwhelmed.
Helplessness will lead to hopelessness.
Eventually you start feeling overwhelmed.
Overwhelmed has 3 ugly cousins who visit and make things feel:
-Personal
-Pervasive
-Permanent
-Personal
-Pervasive
-Permanent
Truth About Lies
Very easy to get away with faulty THINKING.
We believe what we ALLOW ourselves to THINK. More difficult to believe everything we SAY.
WE believe our THOUGHTS, but not everyone believes our WORDS.
Very easy to get away with faulty THINKING.
We believe what we ALLOW ourselves to THINK. More difficult to believe everything we SAY.
WE believe our THOUGHTS, but not everyone believes our WORDS.
Easiest way to challenge your thinking is to talk about it and the BEST Person to talk to is the One who knows the TRUTH
Action Triggers
When you catch yourself being negative:
2 Corinthians 10:5 it!
Capture to Christ!
Don’t just allow yourself to think it – challenge it! - “Who says?”
When you catch yourself being negative:
2 Corinthians 10:5 it!
Capture to Christ!
Don’t just allow yourself to think it – challenge it! - “Who says?”
Ask these 3 Questions:
1. Is it true?
2. Is it helpful
3. Is it Godly?
1. Is it true?
2. Is it helpful
3. Is it Godly?
Growing in knowledge of God’s character – WHO He is – by spending time with His Word.
Growing in relationship with Him by speaking to Him.
God’s truth about me will replace the lies I’ve believed about me.
“Who says? Because THIS is what God says!”
Growing in relationship with Him by speaking to Him.
God’s truth about me will replace the lies I’ve believed about me.
“Who says? Because THIS is what God says!”