Momentum Church
Problem People 101
Problem People 101, Part 3 | Pastor Ross Wiseman
Locations & Times
Momentum Church
659 Arnold Mill Rd, Woodstock, GA 30188, USA
Sunday 9:00 AM
Sunday 10:45 AM
JACOB MANIPULATED ESAU
WOMEN MANIPULATED HEROD
DELILAH MANIPULATED SAMSON:
MANIPULATORS’ GREATEST WEAPONS:
#1Threats:
◦If you want to work here, you’ll do this.
◦If you don’t do this, I’m leaving you.
◦If you don’t tell me, I’m hanging up.
◦If you don’t pay more attention to me, I’m taking you out of my will.
◦If you don’t do this, you are not getting any of that.
#2 Guilt:
◦If you love me, you’d do what I ask.
◦After all I’ve done for you; you won’t do this one thing.
◦Silent treatment: I’m not talking to you right now.
◦Thought we were close; obviously I can’t count on you.
◦If you don’t do this, you’re not a good Christian.
◦If you don’t meet my needs, I’ll find another way to get them met.
#1Threats:
◦If you want to work here, you’ll do this.
◦If you don’t do this, I’m leaving you.
◦If you don’t tell me, I’m hanging up.
◦If you don’t pay more attention to me, I’m taking you out of my will.
◦If you don’t do this, you are not getting any of that.
#2 Guilt:
◦If you love me, you’d do what I ask.
◦After all I’ve done for you; you won’t do this one thing.
◦Silent treatment: I’m not talking to you right now.
◦Thought we were close; obviously I can’t count on you.
◦If you don’t do this, you’re not a good Christian.
◦If you don’t meet my needs, I’ll find another way to get them met.
BREAKING THE POWER OF MANIPULATION:
1) RECOGNIZE WHEN SOMEONE IS TRYING TO CONTROL YOU.
Matthew 16:21-22
21...Jesus began to explain to his disciples that he must go to Jerusalem...and that he must be killed and on the third day be raised to life. 22 Peter took him aside and began to rebuke him. "Never, Lord!" he said. "This shall never happen to you!"
HOW DO YOU KNOW YOU ARE BEING MANIPULATED?
-You can’t say “no” to a certain person.
-You’re always made to feel guilty.
-You’re made to feel responsible.
-You’re asked to compromise your values to please others.
1) RECOGNIZE WHEN SOMEONE IS TRYING TO CONTROL YOU.
Matthew 16:21-22
21...Jesus began to explain to his disciples that he must go to Jerusalem...and that he must be killed and on the third day be raised to life. 22 Peter took him aside and began to rebuke him. "Never, Lord!" he said. "This shall never happen to you!"
HOW DO YOU KNOW YOU ARE BEING MANIPULATED?
-You can’t say “no” to a certain person.
-You’re always made to feel guilty.
-You’re made to feel responsible.
-You’re asked to compromise your values to please others.
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BREAKING THE POWER OF MANIPULATION:
2) REFUSE TOLET IT WORK ON YOU.
Matthew 16:23
Jesus turned and said to Peter, "Get behind me, Satan! You are a stumbling block to me; you do not have in mind the things of God, but the things of men."
If someone else has control, you are committing the sin of idolatry.
3) REDEFINE THE RELATIONSHIP.
John 21:16
Again Jesus said, "Simon son of John, do you truly love me?" He answered, "Yes, Lord, you know that I love you." Jesus said, "Take care of my sheep."
Galatians 1:10
Obviously, I'm not trying to be a people pleaser! No, I am trying to please God. If I were still trying to please people, I would not be Christ's servant.
2) REFUSE TOLET IT WORK ON YOU.
Matthew 16:23
Jesus turned and said to Peter, "Get behind me, Satan! You are a stumbling block to me; you do not have in mind the things of God, but the things of men."
If someone else has control, you are committing the sin of idolatry.
3) REDEFINE THE RELATIONSHIP.
John 21:16
Again Jesus said, "Simon son of John, do you truly love me?" He answered, "Yes, Lord, you know that I love you." Jesus said, "Take care of my sheep."
Galatians 1:10
Obviously, I'm not trying to be a people pleaser! No, I am trying to please God. If I were still trying to please people, I would not be Christ's servant.