Maybe the question should be:
How would I like someone to approach me If I stumbled, if I had sinned, if I had a marriage breakdown, if I got drunk one night and made a fool of yourself, if I committed adultery, If I became sick, If I lost a spouse, my wife, my husband, my child?
How would I like to be cared for?
Would I like to be judged?
Would I like to be condemned?
Would I want to be fixed?