God designed you to experience life with friends.


How to Find a Friend and Be a Friend:


1. Realize the importance of friendship.

"It is not good for man to be alone."
Genesis 2:18 (NIV)

"...research suggests that friendships can help us find purpose and meaning, stay healthy, and live longer."
Lydia Denworth, Why Your Friends Are More Important Than You Think


2. Prioritize building friendships.

"The righteous choose their friends carefully..."
Proverbs 12:26 (NIV)

“Friends won’t fall from the sky. Friends are always made.”
Jennie Allen, Find Your People


3. Invest in maintaining friendships.

“Walk with the wise and become wise …”
Proverbs 13:20 (NIV)

“ … friendship is a lifelong endeavor and that is something people should be paying attention to at all points of life.”
Lydia Denworth, Why Your Friends Are More Important Than You Think


4. Count the cost of friendship.

“Friends love through all kinds of weather, and families stick together in all kinds of trouble.”
Proverbs 17:17 (THE MESSAGE)

“Outside of Jesus, relationships are the greatest gift we have on earth and simultaneously the most difficult part of being alive.”
Jennie Allen, Find Your People


5. Follow Jesus through your friendships.

“I no longer call you servants, because a servant does not know his master’s business. Instead, I have called you friends.”
Words of Jesus, John 15:15 (NIV)

“God gives the people who follow Him a shared purpose, along with gifts that require us to depend on each other to accomplish that purpose.” Jennie Allen, Find Your People



Grow Your Confidence to Find Friends and Be a Friend

- Read about the friendship of David and Jonathan (1 Samuel 18-20).

- Show up - spend time together.

- Be encouraging - tell your friends the positive you see in them.

- Find friends who will help you grow your friendship with Jesus.


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Book Reference:

Find Your People: Building Deep Community in a Lonely World
Jenny Allen