Calvary Church
Choosing a Mate (Part 2)
Main Idea: In this teaching, we want to come alongside parents and young adults and equip them for choosing a mate.
Locations & Times
Calvary Church
4700 53rd St, Moline, IL 61265, USA
Sunday 8:30 AM
Sunday 10:30 AM
Eight Steps in Choosing a Mate
1. RESPONSIBILITY—Parents have some
1. RESPONSIBILITY—Parents have some
Four Examples of How Parents Can Help in Choosing Mates
1) Our EXAMPLE—Children usually marry mates like their parents in some respects
2) Our VALUES—Children usually carry into their marriage the values they learned at home
3) Our EXPECTATIONS—This can happen by placing them in the right environment
4) Our EXAMINATION—It’s important for mom and dad to find out as much as possible of the person that your son or daughter is pursuing
1) Our EXAMPLE—Children usually marry mates like their parents in some respects
2) Our VALUES—Children usually carry into their marriage the values they learned at home
3) Our EXPECTATIONS—This can happen by placing them in the right environment
4) Our EXAMINATION—It’s important for mom and dad to find out as much as possible of the person that your son or daughter is pursuing
Eight Steps in Choosing a Mate
1. RESPONSIBILITY—Parents have some
2. PREPARATION—Do not ruin your marriage while you’re still single
1. RESPONSIBILITY—Parents have some
2. PREPARATION—Do not ruin your marriage while you’re still single
How Can I PREPARE for a MATE?
1) Study their CHARACTERISTICS
1) Study their CHARACTERISTICS
Happily Married Women
a) Happily married women have KIND attitudes toward OTHER people
b) Happily married women expect people to have KIND attitudes toward THEM
c) Happily married women do not take OFFENSE easily
d) Happily married women do not desire to make great IMPRESSIONS on other people
e) Happily married women do not look at social relationships as RIVAL situations
a) Happily married women have KIND attitudes toward OTHER people
b) Happily married women expect people to have KIND attitudes toward THEM
c) Happily married women do not take OFFENSE easily
d) Happily married women do not desire to make great IMPRESSIONS on other people
e) Happily married women do not look at social relationships as RIVAL situations
Unhappily Married Women
a) Unhappily married women are more emotionally TENSE
b) Unhappily married women are often more MOODY
c) Unhappily married women usually have greater INFERIOR feelings
d) Unhappily married women are more inclined to be DICTATORIAL
e) Unhappily married women are usually more AGGRESSIVE and over ANXIOUS in their social life
a) Unhappily married women are more emotionally TENSE
b) Unhappily married women are often more MOODY
c) Unhappily married women usually have greater INFERIOR feelings
d) Unhappily married women are more inclined to be DICTATORIAL
e) Unhappily married women are usually more AGGRESSIVE and over ANXIOUS in their social life
Happily Married Men
a) Happily married men have a stable emotional TONE in their life
b) Happily married men are more COOPERATIVE
c) Happily married men show an attitude toward women of equal VALUE (They do not look at women as beneath them)
d) Happily married men have a benevolent ATTITUDE towards underprivileged people
e) Happily married men are not as SELF-CONSCIENCE
a) Happily married men have a stable emotional TONE in their life
b) Happily married men are more COOPERATIVE
c) Happily married men show an attitude toward women of equal VALUE (They do not look at women as beneath them)
d) Happily married men have a benevolent ATTITUDE towards underprivileged people
e) Happily married men are not as SELF-CONSCIENCE
Unhappily Married Men
a) Unhappily married men are more MOODY
b) Unhappily married men feel more socially INFERIOR
c) Unhappily married men struggle with being CONSPICUOUS in public
d) Unhappily married men are more highly SENSITIVE in problem areas
e) Unhappily married men compensate their social inferiority by DOMINATING their household
a) Unhappily married men are more MOODY
b) Unhappily married men feel more socially INFERIOR
c) Unhappily married men struggle with being CONSPICUOUS in public
d) Unhappily married men are more highly SENSITIVE in problem areas
e) Unhappily married men compensate their social inferiority by DOMINATING their household
How Can I PREPARE for a MATE?
1) Study their CHARACTERISTICS
2) Study their FAMILY background
1) Study their CHARACTERISTICS
2) Study their FAMILY background
How Can I PREPARE for a MATE?
1) Study their CHARACTERISTICS
2) Study their FAMILY background
3) Study your PRIORITIES in the selection process
1) Study their CHARACTERISTICS
2) Study their FAMILY background
3) Study your PRIORITIES in the selection process
As Christians, we are not to be UNEQUALLY yoked.
Two Priorities in the Selection Process
a) Priority #1—God should be FIRST when selecting a mate
b) Priority #2—Only be with CHRISTIANS period…NO exceptions
a) Priority #1—God should be FIRST when selecting a mate
b) Priority #2—Only be with CHRISTIANS period…NO exceptions
Eight Steps in Choosing a Mate
1. RESPONSIBILITY—Parents have some
2. PREPARATION—Do not ruin your marriage while you’re still single
3. PROGRESS—This happens by knowing God’s will
1. RESPONSIBILITY—Parents have some
2. PREPARATION—Do not ruin your marriage while you’re still single
3. PROGRESS—This happens by knowing God’s will
You must start WRITING down what you’re looking for in a mate before you START looking.
Make decisions in all of life before becoming EMOTIONALLY involved.
All of us will either MOLD our circumstances or our circumstances will MOLD us.
Eight Steps in Choosing a Mate
1. RESPONSIBILITY—Parents have some
2. PREPARATION—Do not ruin your marriage while you’re still single
3. PROGRESS—This happens by knowing God’s will
4. PLACEMENT—This happens by going and by being in the right place
1. RESPONSIBILITY—Parents have some
2. PREPARATION—Do not ruin your marriage while you’re still single
3. PROGRESS—This happens by knowing God’s will
4. PLACEMENT—This happens by going and by being in the right place
Eight Steps in Choosing a Mate
1. RESPONSIBILITY—Parents have some
2. PREPARATION—Do not ruin your marriage while you’re still single
3. PROGRESS—This happens by knowing God’s will
4. PLACEMENT—This happens by going and by being in the right place
5. PRAYING—Pray, Pray, Pray!
1. RESPONSIBILITY—Parents have some
2. PREPARATION—Do not ruin your marriage while you’re still single
3. PROGRESS—This happens by knowing God’s will
4. PLACEMENT—This happens by going and by being in the right place
5. PRAYING—Pray, Pray, Pray!
Eight Steps in Choosing a Mate
1. RESPONSIBILITY—Parents have some
2. PREPARATION—Do not ruin your marriage while you’re still single
3. PROGRESS—This happens by knowing God’s will
4. PLACEMENT—This happens by going and by being in the right place
5. PRAYING—Pray, Pray, Pray!
6. PATIENCE—It’s better to take a time out today than take a knock out tomorrow
1. RESPONSIBILITY—Parents have some
2. PREPARATION—Do not ruin your marriage while you’re still single
3. PROGRESS—This happens by knowing God’s will
4. PLACEMENT—This happens by going and by being in the right place
5. PRAYING—Pray, Pray, Pray!
6. PATIENCE—It’s better to take a time out today than take a knock out tomorrow
Eight Steps in Choosing a Mate
1. RESPONSIBILITY—Parents have some
2. PREPARATION—Do not ruin your marriage while you’re still single
3. PROGRESS—This happens by knowing God’s will
4. PLACEMENT—This happens by going and by being in the right place
5. PRAYING—Pray, Pray, Pray!
6. PATIENCE—It’s better to take a time out today than take a knock out tomorrow
7. PRAISE—This means raise and when we do it, God will lift us up
1. RESPONSIBILITY—Parents have some
2. PREPARATION—Do not ruin your marriage while you’re still single
3. PROGRESS—This happens by knowing God’s will
4. PLACEMENT—This happens by going and by being in the right place
5. PRAYING—Pray, Pray, Pray!
6. PATIENCE—It’s better to take a time out today than take a knock out tomorrow
7. PRAISE—This means raise and when we do it, God will lift us up
Eight Steps in Choosing a Mate
1. RESPONSIBILITY—Parents have some
2. PREPARATION—Do not ruin your marriage while you’re still single
3. PROGRESS—This happens by knowing God’s will
4. PLACEMENT—This happens by going and by being in the right place
5. PRAYING—Pray, Pray, Pray!
6. PATIENCE—It’s better to take a time out today than take a knock out tomorrow
7. PRAISE—This means raise and when we do it, God will lift us up
8. Don’t CHOOSE a mate, let GOD do it
1. RESPONSIBILITY—Parents have some
2. PREPARATION—Do not ruin your marriage while you’re still single
3. PROGRESS—This happens by knowing God’s will
4. PLACEMENT—This happens by going and by being in the right place
5. PRAYING—Pray, Pray, Pray!
6. PATIENCE—It’s better to take a time out today than take a knock out tomorrow
7. PRAISE—This means raise and when we do it, God will lift us up
8. Don’t CHOOSE a mate, let GOD do it
Talk About It
Discussion Questions:
1. Why might you think that teaching on a subject like this might be an extremely risky task?
2. How would you rate the importance of choosing an appropriate mate? Why? What should you do Biblically if you look back and believe that you didn’t choose the right mate?
3. Of the eight steps in choosing a mate, pick out the two that most spoke to you and why.
4. Have you started writing down what you’re looking for in a mate before looking? If not, partner with a friend or two and start writing.
5. Ultimately we know it would be better for God to choose our mate. How could we allow this to happen?
Next Step:
What is your biggest takeaway from this teaching if you’re a parent, aunt, uncle, grandparent or a single adult wanting to be married someday?
1. Why might you think that teaching on a subject like this might be an extremely risky task?
2. How would you rate the importance of choosing an appropriate mate? Why? What should you do Biblically if you look back and believe that you didn’t choose the right mate?
3. Of the eight steps in choosing a mate, pick out the two that most spoke to you and why.
4. Have you started writing down what you’re looking for in a mate before looking? If not, partner with a friend or two and start writing.
5. Ultimately we know it would be better for God to choose our mate. How could we allow this to happen?
Next Step:
What is your biggest takeaway from this teaching if you’re a parent, aunt, uncle, grandparent or a single adult wanting to be married someday?
Talk About It
Discussion Questions:
1. Why might you think that teaching on a subject like this might be an extremely risky task?
2. How would you rate the importance of choosing an appropriate mate? Why? What should you do Biblically if you look back and believe that you didn’t choose the right mate?
3. Of the eight steps in choosing a mate, pick out the two that most spoke to you and why.
4. Have you started writing down what you’re looking for in a mate before looking? If not, partner with a friend or two and start writing.
5. Ultimately we know it would be better for God to choose our mate. How could we allow this to happen?
Next Step:
What is your biggest takeaway from this teaching if you’re a parent, aunt, uncle, grandparent or a single adult wanting to be married someday?
1. Why might you think that teaching on a subject like this might be an extremely risky task?
2. How would you rate the importance of choosing an appropriate mate? Why? What should you do Biblically if you look back and believe that you didn’t choose the right mate?
3. Of the eight steps in choosing a mate, pick out the two that most spoke to you and why.
4. Have you started writing down what you’re looking for in a mate before looking? If not, partner with a friend or two and start writing.
5. Ultimately we know it would be better for God to choose our mate. How could we allow this to happen?
Next Step:
What is your biggest takeaway from this teaching if you’re a parent, aunt, uncle, grandparent or a single adult wanting to be married someday?