New Covenant Church
Struggle With Love
Join us next week online at 9:30 CT at wearencc.com, or at one of our three in-person services: 9:30AM or 11:15AM at our South Campus, or at 9:30AM at our North Campus.
Locations & Times
New Covenant Church - South Campus
5621 Farm to Market Rd 2087, Longview, TX 75603, USA
Sunday 9:30 AM
Sunday 11:15 AM
New Covenant Church - North Campus
2531 Judson Rd, Longview, TX 75605, USA
Sunday 9:30 AM
New Covenant Online
Sunday 9:30 AM
Honeymoon - Disillusionment - Commitment
1. Unmet expectations
2. Self-centeredness
Two persons feelings wronged is the beginning of any conflict.
Even in small fights the enemy gets in and does big damage. - Your spouse is not the enemy.
Conflict is going to come - When you see it coming you have choices to make
1. Choose To Act And Not React
Healthy conflict leads to healthy relationships. Unhealthy conflict leads to fighting for victory.
MAKE A LIST OF NEVERS
Never in public - Causes embarrassment and can’t come to resolve.
Never involve kids (in front of or using them) - Damages them. Not hiding, respecting.
Never speak harshly - Don’t yell, speak angry. Not what you say but how
Never name call - Demeaning…makes it personal. Attacking the wrong thing.
Never shut down - Can be triggered by yelling or harsh words.
Never physical - Hands are to love not to hurt.
Never historical - Historical leads to hysterical - Bringing up years ago.
Never say never…Or always - Don’t speak in absolutes.
Never in bed - Tired, emotional. Drags out. Make bed a place of intimacy not conflict
Never threaten divorce - “the D word” - Creates instability, not an option.
2. Choose to focus on the good, not the bad
No one can meet 100% of your expectations. Don’t see the 20 in someone else and walk away from something great hoping that 20 in someone else makes up for the 80 you have.
Choose to listen
James 1:19 - Let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger;
- Listen with your face - Listen with good body language
Choose to understand
Seek to understand not be understood - Learn to say “Help me understand”
Choose to be patient
I want to move on and be done with it. - Circling back makes me crazy
- Men are like waffles, but women are like spaghetti.
Choose to validate
Feelings are real. Whether right or not. They are real and can be validated.
Choose to forgive
Forgiving releases your spouse of a debt…it says “you don’t owe me anything”
- A good marriage is the union of two good forgivers. – Ruth Bell Graham
It’s not always easy, but it’s always worth it.
GIVING
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