How should we come to God?
- Honestly and Authentically
“What do you wish had been different, better, or more?” will always help you find what is incomplete. If we do not identify different, better, or more, we begin to make the death or other loss responsible for how bad we feel. As long as we believe that someone or something else is responsible, we’re unable to recover.
We have been falsely socialized to believe that we are victims of events and helpless in our responses to those events, as well as to the thoughts, feelings, and actions of others.
Most people are advised to just “let it go” or told that “what’s done is done.” It would be ideal if the human brain and human heart could simply dismiss problems and move on. But it does not work that way.
Nothing can change until you take responsibility for your own recovery.