Oakwood Community Church

Parenting 101 - Loving Leadership

1. Model love for God
• In your heart
• In your marriage

2. Lead - so your children can:
• See the glory of God and trust Him
• Experience the love of God and enjoy Him
• Know the Word of God and obey Him

Parenting 201 - Loving Discipline

3. Teach - to form the mind
• Intentional Teaching & Informal Talking

4. Train – to shape the will so your children will:
• Listen to your voice
• Obey all the way, right away, with a happy heart
• Learn to make good choices on their own

Love must underlie all we do as parents:

1. Model love for God and
2. Lead to shepherd the heart
3. Teach to form the mind
4. Train to shape the will

3. Teach – to form the mind

• Intentional Teaching & Informal Talking

“You shall love the Lord with all your heart… You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in the house, and when you walk by the way...” Deuteronomy 6:5-7

3. Teach – to form the mind

• Intentional Teaching & Informal Talking

“Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.”
Ephesians 6:4

4. Train – to shape the will so your children will:

• Listen to your voice

• Obey right away

• Learn to make good choices

4. Train – to shape the will so your children will:

• Listen to your voice

• Obey right away

• Learn to make good choices

4. Train – to shape the will so your children will:

• Listen to your voice

“We have all had human fathers who disciplined us and we respected them for it. How much more should we submit to the Father of spirits and live?”
Hebrews 12:9

4. Train – to shape the will so your children will:

• Listen to your voice

“Honor your father and mother” (this is the first commandment with a promise), “that it may go well with you…”
Ephesians 6:2-3

4. Train – to shape the will so your children will:

• Obey all the way, right away, with a happy heart

“Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. Honor your father and mother.” Ephesians 6:1-2

4. Train – to shape the will so your children will:

• Obey all the way
- Let Natural Consequences Teach

“Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. Honor your father and mother.” Ephesians 6:1-2

4. Train – to shape the will so your children will:

• Learn to make good choices

“God disciplines us for our good, in order that we may share in his holiness.”
Hebrews 12:10

4. Train – to shape the will so your children will:

• Learn to make good choices

“No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace.”
Hebrews 12:11